september 21 2009

To argue is just human nature; everyone does it some time or another. Why do you argue with people? Well I think because you want the other person to believe what you believe, you think your way is the right way. If you feel strongly about a topic, and the person disagrees, it’s hard to understand that not everyone feels the same way. This doesn’t make you a bad person we all have our own opinions that need to be respected. For instance, in my life I won’t ever drink, it’s a personal choice that I committed to because of different things that have happened in my life. Now I don’t think my friends need an explanation, in a perfect world they would all just respect my choice. But just because they don’t realize you can still have fun sober, they think pressuring me to do so will change my views. This is another way of arguing. Thinking there way of having fun should be everyone’s way. It’s not true, but this also doesn’t mean we don’t like each other. When I argue with my family or friends I just want to get my point across and make it clear. Sometimes I feel like no one is hearing me out. Arguing doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t like the person, you just have something to say, but it also depends on who you’re arguing with. I don’t think this makes people enemies at all. More times than not, it does get heated, but we all cant feel the same way about something, there will be times when we disagree but that has to be okay. It can get annoying when a topic is pushed on you when you don’t agree with it. Abortion is a hot topic for arguing. I feel if it’s necessary for the situation than why not? People feel so strongly about this, but there’s no need to get ridiculous. I think it’s very important to stay calm when expressing your thoughts, how I think is how I think, there’s no need for anyone else to put there two cents in. I’m the kind of person who doesn’t care about much, I don’t let little things bother me, and anyone can tell you that. Very rarely do I get caught up in the moment and things get heated, unless it’s with my sister or something. There shouldn’t be any rules or regulations with arguments, its just two viewpoints that people are trying to express. If things get so heated that you walk away steaming then you’re pathetic. Life is too short to worry about what other people think. We should all learn that you can’t change the way someone feels about something no matter how hard you try, and to value that say what you have to say then drop it. Otherwise both sides will walk away angry, and you should never go to bed mad as they say. It’s all about respect and knowing when to just say okay and hear someone out.

A friend is not someone who you occasionally hangout with, its more than that. A true friend you can go to at any waking moment, get advice from, or share laughs, you need to feel comfortable enough to respect and trust this person. A relationship is hard work and through up’s and down’s best friends will stick together. You’re lucky if you make it through life with one or two close friends. I’d choose to have a few close friends over a ton of acquaintances any day. Personally, It’s the quality of friends I have not the quantity. I feel I have a good variety of close friends; each brings out a different side to me, and when were all together it’s a great time. It’s important to choose your friends wisely, be careful to what you’re getting into. I try to steer clear of certain characteristics in a person. You can’t befriend everyone and some people don’t realize that. Trying too hard to be liked is a turnoff, especially in high school, you see kids wanting to have the most friends and be popular, but it’s not worth it. Clichés in high school vanish once you graduate; the real test for true friends is when college starts. It’s going to be a challenge to stay connected but it’s also a commitment in my eyes. I feel a sense of responsibility to each of my friends, something that I can’t let fade away.
I know plenty of people who are well-known but don’t have any good close friends. Being a friend to the entire school can seem rewarding to an outsider, but not having, even one best friend, can be lonely. You won’t be liked by everyone and that’s a fact we all need to accept, once realizing that it will be much easier to be happy and enjoy the time you have spent with people who truly care about you. Some people just have an outgoing personality so it’s a lot easier to make friends and meet people. Personable people don’t need to try at all to make friends; it’s a part of their up-bringing. On the other hand there are some that have a few set friends and don’t feel a need to make more. I have a friend who isn’t that friendly with outsiders but with the people she’s close with it’s a fun time. I feel the more the merrier. I like being around outgoing kids who live a pretty carefree life, it makes the situation more comfortable and fun. As my mom always says, “fun is the best thing to have.” I live by this statement everyday, you can’t take anything for granted, and nine times out of ten we get caught up in silly predicaments that ruin a friendship. I feel very strongly towards my outlook on friends because they come and go, but my closest friends are always by my side. It’s sad to say goodbye to people I was once close to, but times change, and people grow apart. I really use my mom as an example of what a true friendship is. She’s gone through so much, but still has her two or three girlfriends from high school. They talk pretty much everyday and see each other quite often, considering it’s about an hour and a half drive each way. When I’m her age, if have as many best friends as she does, I’ll be thankful. But for now, I’m content with where I’m at.