september 21 2009

To argue is just human nature; everyone does it some time or another. Why do you argue with people? Well I think because you want the other person to believe what you believe, you think your way is the right way. If you feel strongly about a topic, and the person disagrees, it’s hard to understand that not everyone feels the same way. This doesn’t make you a bad person we all have our own opinions that need to be respected. For instance, in my life I won’t ever drink, it’s a personal choice that I committed to because of different things that have happened in my life. Now I don’t think my friends need an explanation, in a perfect world they would all just respect my choice. But just because they don’t realize you can still have fun sober, they think pressuring me to do so will change my views. This is another way of arguing. Thinking there way of having fun should be everyone’s way. It’s not true, but this also doesn’t mean we don’t like each other. When I argue with my family or friends I just want to get my point across and make it clear. Sometimes I feel like no one is hearing me out. Arguing doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t like the person, you just have something to say, but it also depends on who you’re arguing with. I don’t think this makes people enemies at all. More times than not, it does get heated, but we all cant feel the same way about something, there will be times when we disagree but that has to be okay. It can get annoying when a topic is pushed on you when you don’t agree with it. Abortion is a hot topic for arguing. I feel if it’s necessary for the situation than why not? People feel so strongly about this, but there’s no need to get ridiculous. I think it’s very important to stay calm when expressing your thoughts, how I think is how I think, there’s no need for anyone else to put there two cents in. I’m the kind of person who doesn’t care about much, I don’t let little things bother me, and anyone can tell you that. Very rarely do I get caught up in the moment and things get heated, unless it’s with my sister or something. There shouldn’t be any rules or regulations with arguments, its just two viewpoints that people are trying to express. If things get so heated that you walk away steaming then you’re pathetic. Life is too short to worry about what other people think. We should all learn that you can’t change the way someone feels about something no matter how hard you try, and to value that say what you have to say then drop it. Otherwise both sides will walk away angry, and you should never go to bed mad as they say. It’s all about respect and knowing when to just say okay and hear someone out.